For all my friends !!

" Mainu yaar mere lagde khudaa varge,
kise allah de fakir di dua varge" !!

Today I arose myself a question - Who all are my friends ?
It was no easy to get the answer but had to close my eyes to go deeper into myself.
Trust me it was so wonderful the experience of journey within your ownself.

Here comes the answer directly from my heart:-

To whom I extend my friendly hand and who grasps it with love is my friend.
Anyone who extends his friendly hand towards me is surely my friend. Infact my true love remains with those who took the lead to extend their friendly hand to me. You can always love someone who loves you, but you cannot always make someone love you.

So my true respect and love for those who loved me the way I am without myself making any effort to get their love.. You are the ones who made me realize that I am lovable. I can see my God in you. I can do anything for you.

Friends bring fulfillment in your life with their presence, the positiveness, the belongingness, the love, the joy, the helping hand, the listener. Whenever you are feeling low or lonely, then your friends come to your rescue and hold your hand to say "Hey! Why do you worry, when I am with you".
Friends come in your life, becomes part of your life, give memories and then leave. We all welcome the friends as they come, have good memorable times. And finally get sad, sometimes even cry on departure from them. So a very bitter fact is that you cannot take their existence as permanent. We blame ourself or the situations and curse ourself on our helplessness to get them back . And finally we blame the God for having done that.
So when you lose a a friend who is close to your heart, the only way to deal it is that we consider everything as pre-planned by that divine self, where everything happens for a reason. We cannot know the reason because we are not part of decision making. We all are playing as different roles in a play named "A beautiful Life" whose director and producer is the God. The planner of our life is someone else, who resides in all of us, whose planning is unquestionable. Those who accepts the planning remains happy and thankful and feel blessed in each situation and those who questions the very planning remain sad, depressed and obsessed with all other negative feelings. They keep cursing themselves but never realize that they are the actors of this play and not the directors.

Only when you realize this very reality that you will be able to get out of the trauma of losing someone who had been close to your heart. Sooner or later one has to accept the very reality.

One possible solution in this situation is that you can make friends with that devine itself. Who will always remain with you throughout your life. Then you can see God in everybody. And then furthur more you can see a friend in everybody"

Yet from another viewpoint, I feel that unless you realize the temporary existence of your friends. You cannot express your true friendship. Because forgetting this very fact, we start taking a lot of things for granted and start ignoring our friends . Let me explain it in with example situations.

• Each time you see your friend, you should meet him/her with such a completeness as if this is your last meeting. Express as much love as you can. Who knows 'kal ho na ho'.

• Before fighting with your dear one or getting angry with your dear one, just remember this very fact. Love that you wanted to show and postponed till tomorrow,May not come. At that time you will ask God to give you one last chance to express your feelings to your love, your friend. But then that chance may never come. God had given many chances to express the love but you wasted it all fighting, cursing, complaining your dear one.Then God will have only one answer for you "You better be alone, you don't deserve a friend"